Full Length Mirror: Volume 2
Welcome to the second issue. I'm (still) grateful that you're here!
Volume 2 is (still) imperfect, but it remains reflective of my goal: to create content that is less focused on “the now” and more on timelessness. Great songs, classic recipes with a modern twist, articles that keep you thinking, and more. Let’s get into it!
An Interview with Mike Pellicciotti
I’m privileged to be able to feature a conversation with Mike Pellicciotti, my childhood friend from sixth grade, a devoted public servant and a rising political star. In 2020, his campaign was the only Democratic campaign in America to beat a state executive incumbent. There’s never been a better time to get to know the Washington State Treasurer.
I’m grateful Full Length Mirror has given me the impetus to reconnect with many people. For this month’s interview, I’m thrilled to feature Mike Pellicciotti, Treasurer of Washington State. In 2020, his campaign was the only Democratic campaign in America to beat a state executive incumbent. Among his many accomplishments are maintaining Washington’s credit rating (AAA), refinancing state debt to save over $290mm, and helping coordinate Washington to be the first state to receive federal funds to help with the impact of the pandemic.
When I look back at my childhood, there were very few people I thought I knew better than Mike. From the moment we became friends in sixth grade, Mike’s inherent goodness was evident in every interaction with him. I knew he would do something with a higher purpose; that he would play fair and tell the truth. So it’s no surprise he’s a public servant with a bright future ahead of him. Regardless of politics, I think we all have a lot to learn from Mike’s focus, dedication and self-awareness.
Tell me a little about how you grew up?
I was born and raised in Indiana, mostly being raised in a town called Munster about 45 minutes southeast of Chicago. I ended up heading out East to attend Alfred University and then to the Pacific Northwest to attend Gonzaga for my law degree. In between, I was also lucky to be a Fulbright Scholar to Canada, where I received a Masters in Rural Development. My educator parents and their commitment to education profoundly affected my upbringing, but I was also influenced by spending every summer of my childhood living with my grandparents in upstate New York. They had recently retired as a cleaning lady and a janitor. I learned some of my most valuable lessons from what they taught me, whether by listening to them about their experiences navigating a difficult world or just feeling their commitment to hard work.
What about the time you spent with them shapes the way you think right now?
How hard they worked (very) and how they lived (modestly) helped make me want to make sure every individual gets a fair shot in life. My grandparents didn’t want anything “extra” - they just wanted to have a chance at a decent life for themselves and their children given how hard they worked. They also had a good sense of right and wrong, and how people with the most resources concentrate power and want the most for themselves, but the wealthy don’t think enough about the needs of those without power who work the hardest and ask for the least for themselves. These combination of influences between my parents and grandparents helped form priorities important to me.
What motivates you right now?
“ I believe new policies addressing economic inequity are the most direct, longest-lasting ways to put our country back on the right track. ”
Of course my childhood and my family impacted the person and public servant I am now. Those experiences motivated me early in my career to prosecute economic crimes that I did as a Deputy Prosecuting Attorney and an Assistant Attorney General, and my subsequent work as a legislator creating laws to increase penalties for corporate crime and to get “dark money” out of politics.
As State Treasurer, I want to work on behalf of everyone in my State, knowing that working families and retirees are the most impacted by policies, but they don’t always have the strongest voices in how laws are written. Those playing by the rules and consistently putting in an honest day’s work are barely surviving, let alone thriving, in our country today. People - of all political parties and backgrounds - feel like the deck is stacked against them and they’re angry and frustrated. I believe new policies addressing economic inequity are the most direct, longest-lasting ways to put our country back on the right track.
It’s clear that there is a concentration of wealth - and power - among a narrowing elite in our country. I don’t want to see those powerful interests become so powerful and disconnected from working people that the American institutions that do promote equality, fairness, and opportunity are destroyed in the wake of a growing tidal wave of discontent. America must be a place where everyone should be included and able to use their skills and God-given talents to reach their full potential.
What is something that you’re particularly proud of?
One piece of legislation that I introduced this month is something I hope will have a far-reaching, multi-generational impact. It’s called the Washington Future Fund. It’s an idea modeled after “baby bonds” that would invest money in the name of every Medicaid-funded newborn birth, putting aside $3,200 to be invested by the state over the next two decades. This investment fund will hopefully grow 3-4 times in size by the time the newborn becomes an adult and will then be available for educational attainment, for a housing down payment, or to start a small business. It’s about folks having a fair chance for success. We are hoping to use this wealth growth to help break cycles of poverty. This initiative is an important first step in addressing generational wealth inequities, and I hope we are successful with it so other states can be next.
Many of your policies would be characterized as progressive (in your words). Is that intentional, or do you think that they are “common sense” and actually apolitical, but you “need” to refer to them as “progressive”?
The reality is that we’re polarized as a country - that’s obvious - so labeling policies is not as important as what they do. What’s most critical is that we come together and move things forward so we can process as a nation. In my role as State Treasurer, everything that I’m fighting for - equal access to opportunity, holding powerful interests accountable, getting corporate special interest money out of politics, and fighting for working families and retirees - are all things I think most folks in my state agree with. Until we fully confront these issues, however, I think many people will continue to feel that government isn’t serving their interests.
Do you have any rituals that help you stay grounded and focused on doing the best job you can do professionally?
I love my job and it keeps me busy. But staying connected with friends and family is very important - and grounding - to me, as is connecting with constituents as much as I can to make sure my work is best meeting the needs of the public. It’s important that elected officials constantly remind themselves that you are simply a temporary occupant of the role currently held.
Is there something else you’d like to share?
It’s such a pleasure to connect with you. And I appreciate your questions. There have been few times in our history when it’s been more critical for everyone to engage with the political process. It’s important that we don’t take anything for granted and that we hold people in power accountable. This can only happen the more we all engage and support candidates who are fully committed to democracy and the rule of law. Thanks again for letting me connect with you today.
WATCH, READ AND THINK
What do Cale Brown, TikTok creator, and Senator Josh Hawley have in common?
They are both trying to redefine masculinity. If me or any of my friends expressed ourselves through dance while growing up, we would have been ridiculed, called names and made fun of (or beat up) - love seeing how Cale Brown and the thousands of other creators out there are expressing themselves through movement.
Senator Hawley thinks we have a crisis with men in our country and I happen to agree (“American men are working less, getting married in fewer numbers; they’re fathering fewer children. They are suffering more anxiety and depression. They are engaging in more substance abuse.”). The question is, what are we going to do about it? My current solution is to focus on raising two strong, independent daughters (humans first, females second), but that’s not enough.
What do you think?
LISTEN
“Friendship - My Reliable Gift”
This episode was very poignant. Esther facilitates a discussion between two childhood friends and helps them say what has been on their mind for years, even decades. A wonderful listen and a reminder that while trust and authenticity are integral parts of friendship, being the perfect friend is not. If you want to dig deeper on the podcast, here’s the link to the show notes and transcript.
READ
“How to Talk to People, According to Terry Gross”
The only icebreaker you you’ll ever need: “Tell me about yourself.” Being a great conversationalist comes naturally to some. For everyone else, this is a handy, concise guide (especially useful when you walk into that crowded room…and know nobody).
Photograph by Emilio Brizzi/Millennium Images, UK
10 Minutes 38 Seconds in This Strange World by Elif Shafak
Wish I would have discovered her work earlier. While she has a newer book (and many older ones), this really stood out. I love that it takes place in a bustling city (Istanbul); blends together old and new ways of thinking and is a fascinating evaluation of friendship and loyalty. One question the book tries to answer is “Who will remember me after I’m gone?” and, while the deceased will never know, it is a wonderful question to ponder.
Jacket photograph by Emilio Brizzi/Millennium Images, UK
BUY (VALENTINE’S DAY EDITION)
For Him
INVEST IN WELLNESS
A five-pack of classes (to help with getting the six-pack) to his favorite boutique studio, maybe Barry’s?
Subscription to a meditation app (I use Headspace).
Is he at an age where the warm-up and cool-down take as long as the workout? Then this vibrating foam roller from Hyperice is perfect.
SPOIL WITH JEWELRY
Why not? Peyote Bird is a classic brand (if you’re into a rock ‘n roll, Western, Native American and/or turquoise vibe) from Santa Fe. Available directly through their website or via Mr Porter.
SPARK ROMANCE
Pajamas? Robe? Understated underwear? Check, check and check, all from CDLP.
SUBTLY OVERHAUL WARDROBE
Classic jeans from Acne, classic Howlin’ sweaters (based in Antwerp, rooted in Scotland, also on sale here) or simple v-neck t-shirts from James Perse. All classic, well-fitting and (somewhat) reasonably priced.
For Her
INVEST IN WELLNESS
Five-pack to her favorite boutique studio, maybe Barry’s or a Megaformer spot, like Studio MDR (LA), Transform (Denver) or SLT (New York)?
Working out from home? How about some new weights from Bala?
Infrared saunas are awesome if you have the space. But an easier way to warm things up is a sauna blanket, like this one from Higher Dose.
SPOIL WITH JEWELRY
This jewelry from Bea Bongiasca will help her light up a room more than she already does. The color, the materials and playful design sensibility are unique and joyful.
If you’re more of the “go big or go home mindset”, Monique Pean’s one-of-a-kind, sustainable designs, with materials responsibly sourced from around the world, will be sure to make jaws drop.
SPARK ROMANCE
Almost anything from either of these two brands is sure to thrill (both of you), either Fleur du Mal (colorful, irreverent and sexy) or Negative (sleek, flattering, simple and sexy).
SURPRISE HER WITH CLOTHING
Buying clothing for women - whether you’re a girl or a guy - can be intimidating. But it doesn’t need to be. And it’s the thought that counts (as long as you don’t completely biff on sizing).
Is she a workout fiend? Leggings from Ultracor are functional and sleek and not as ubiquitous as some other brands.
Are you going somewhere hot in the coming months? What about a warm-weather dress from Patbo or a swimsuit from Norma Kamali?
Ready to go on date night again? A flowy silk dress from The Sei will never go out of style.
Help her stay warm with a Commes Des Garcons Play sweater - neutral colors with a fun logo that goes with almost anything.
For Anyone
FIRE UP THEIR INTELLECT (WITH BOOKS)
The Color of Money: Black Banks and the Racial Wealth Gap by Mehrsa Baradaran explains, through diligent research and fact-based writing, the history of economic inequality and the resulting wealth gap in the United States. It’s a must read for those that want to learn more about how our history shapes our present and future (also available at your local bookstore, like Tattered Cover).
Klara and the Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro is a glimpse into the future of what robots and AI might bring to our society. While it is an entertaining and quick read, the questions it raises last for a long while (Tattered Cover).
If they’re into world history, colonization and exploring ruthless behavior, there’s nothing better than The Anarchy: The East India Company, Corporate Violence, and the Pillage of an Empire by William Dalrymple. I read it in 2020 and it’s on my short “re-read” list. Though it’s not easy, it is engaging, entertaining and deeply informative (Tattered Cover).
MEMORIES
What about ordering a handful of the 10,000 photos you have on your camera? Try matte or double-thick prints from Artifact Uprising, placed in a nice lucite box on their nightstand, like one of these from Alexandra Von Furstenberg.
SCENTS
You can’t go wrong with any scent from either Byredo or Ex Nihilo, but Infloresence (Byredo) and Fleur Narcotique (Ex Nihilo) are absolute stunners. Oh, and both brands have discovery sets for the non-committal.
JUST FUN
Looking to open up to each other a little more? What about the Relationship Expansion Pack from We Are Not Really Strangers? As the brand says, “Warning: Feelings May Arise”. Not bad for $12.
Wouldn’t one of these prints look great in their home office? Sonic Editions has fashion, sport, travel and much more.
FOOD AND DRINK
Cool, independent World Whisky, Made in Japan? Wine from the year that you met? A gift card to Goldbelly (or you can order something to eat at home for date night instead)? Try Milk Street if they’ve got a global palette (Yakami Orchard Yuzu Marmalade or Pic’s Crunchy Peanut Butter).
If money’s no object, try L’Objet. This Haas Brothers Salad Monster Serving Bowl will add whimsy and smiles to any meal.
And really, what’s a Valentine’s Day without chocolate? Dandelion is the brand to get, whether you’re going to devour a few bars together (or by yourself) or bake with it.
LESS OF A SPENDTHRIFT? MORE LOW-KEY?
Check out “brandless” brands Italic and Quince, where you can get unbranded product in categories ranging from home to jewelry to apparel.
Still no luck? E-mail me and I’ll help you (for real).
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MORE CONNECTION
Connecting meaningfully over the phone takes scheduling or serendipity. For when that feels overwhelming but you want to brighten someone’s day, find a photo on your phone that makes you smile and reminds you of them. (And send it.) Takes less than three minutes and will bring a smile to their face.
MAKE, SHARE AND EAT
Mumbaikar Avocado with Turmeric and Tempered Spices
Growing up, I remember how avocados were a rarity, a treat and a luxury. They’re still a treat and, properly made, taste luxurious. Lucky for all of us they are no longer a rarity. This recipe is great for entertaining, as it accommodates all sorts of dietary preferences, restrictions, and perversions (vegan, vegetarian, Keto-friendly, Paleo-friendly, gluten-free, etc.)
Approximate Ingredients (serves between two and four as an appetizer)
Two large, ripe avocados
One tablespoon coconut oil
One teaspoon cumin seeds
One teaspoon mustard seeds
One teaspoon white urad dal (also called split matpe beans; this is optional to the recipe, but adds tremendous crunch; can find this at local South Asian grocery stores or, better yet, ask your Indian friends if you can borrow some)
One teaspoon turmeric powder
One-half tablespoon freshly-squeezed lemon juice (yes, needs to be fresh and needs to be lemon, not lime)
Sea salt to taste
Freshly-cracked black pepper to taste (yes, needs to be freshly-cracked)
Half-cup finely chopped white onion
Quarter-cup, lightly packed, chopped cilantro
Half tablespoon of finely chopped serrano pepper
Approximate Steps
Dice avocado and place into large bowl
Add lemon juice, onion, cilantro, serrano pepper. Combine and mash to desired consistency. Add sea salt and black pepper to taste
In a small saucepan, heat coconut oil over medium heat until it liquifies (if solid) and shimmers. Add urad dal. Let sizzle for one to two minutes the dal gets golden brown. Add mustard seeds and cumin seeds. They’ll begin popping within a few seconds. Once they begin popping, take the pan off the heat, add the turmeric and mix well. Take the entire coconut oil and tempered spices and combine with the avocado mixture
Serve with Carr’s Table Water Crackers - their subtle taste and crunch really allows the avocado to shine
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